Being a mum

It's great to be a mum and when the kids become teenagers we realise that it's not an easy task. But it was our choice to have them. My son and I have a rocky relationship but I've discovered that the honesty I have always practiced with him is a very worthwhile investment. If I hadn't been honest with him when he was younger, my dishonesty would be biting me in the bottom now. It means that he can be honest with me (about important matters) and neither of us ever feel really let down by each other. Saying sorry to our kids is also something very important: when we should. Feeling unjustly treated is very demoralising for anyone, especially for our kids when they totally trust our judgement and decisions. Letting them make their own mistakes is very difficult sometimes but necessary. It gives them the practice for when the decisions become more important as they grow older. Seeing the consequences of their decisions will help them to be more confident about making the right ones. All I do as a mum, is the training for my son to become a responsible and respectable man. He will always need my love and if he knows that my love is always there for him, he will feel confident to love himself and others in turn. I may not love everything he does, but I will always love my child. He has to know this, at every moment, every day.